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  • এই ভিডিওটা দেখুন।
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  • কমবয়সে ভায়োলেন্ট পর্ণ দেখার ফল ঃ

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2432591/Experiment-convinced-online-porn-pernicious-threat-facing-children-today-By-ex-lads-mag-editor-MARTIN-DAUBNEY.html#ixzz2gLgQjtP6

    ....To find out what porn is doing to young men, and the girls they have relationships with, we spoke to them via online forums and discovered that there were many young lives seriously blighted by an excessive, unhealthy relationship with pornography that can begin when they are as young as 12.
    We learned that some had lost their jobs, others had broken relationships, failed exams, or got into serious debt through using porn.....

    'When you interview young women about their experiences of sex, you see an increased level of violence: rough, violent sex,' she says.
    'That is directly because of porn, as young boys are getting their sexual cues from men in porn who are acting as if they're sexual psychopaths.......

    ....The brain's reward centre is fully developed by the time we're teenagers, but the part of the brain that regulates our urges - the pre-frontal cortex - isn't fully developed until our mid-20s. The brains of teenagers are not wired to say 'stop', they are wired to want more. The implications of this study are profoundly troubling.....
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  • পর্ণোর ভায়োলেন্ট এফেক্টের প্রভাব জাতীয় কিছু আমি বোধহয় বলার চেষ্টা করেছিলাম অনেক অনেক পোস্ট আগে। আমার মনে হয় যারা ধরা পড়েন - তাদের শাস্তি দেওয়ার আগে খুব দরকার মেন্টাল ম্যাপিং করা - বিভিন্ন প্রশ্ন করে বোঝা তারা কেন এই কাজ করেছিলেন। আমি জানি না এই কাজের চেষ্টা হয় কি না - কিন্তু এটা করলে তবেই কিছু আইডিয়া পাওয়া যাবে ট্রিগারিং কস সম্বন্ধে - য়ার সেই দাটা ছাড়া আমাদের এখানের তাত্বিক কচকচি নেহাতই টাইম্পাস।
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  • ওখানে এত আজে বাজে অনলাইন অ্যাড দেওয়া আর ছবিছাবা, আপিস থেকে পড়ার নিমিত্ত কচকচিখানি এখানে আনা হইল।

    Experiment that convinced me online porn is the most pernicious threat facing children today: By ex-lads' mag editor MARTIN DAUBNEY

    By Martin Daubney

    PUBLISHED: 22:24 GMT, 25 September 2013 | UPDATED: 07:51 GMT, 30 September 2013

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    The moment I knew internet pornography had cast its dark shadow over the lives of millions of ordinary British teenagers will live with me for ever.

    I was sitting in the smart drama hall of a specialist sports college in the North of England with a fantastic reputation.

    Before me were a group of 20 boys and girls, aged 13-14. Largely white, working class children, they were well turned-out, polite, giggly and shy.

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    Martin Daubney, ex-editor of Loaded, with his wife Diana and his son Sonny

    Martin Daubney, ex-editor of Loaded, with his wife Diana and his son Sonny

    As the presenter of a Channel 4 documentary called Porn On The Brain, airing next Monday at 10pm, I'd been invited to sit in on a forward-thinking class led by sex education consultant Jonny Hunt, who is regularly asked into schools to discuss sex and relationships. To establish what these kids knew about sex - including pornography - he had asked the children to write an A-Z list of the sexual terms they knew, no matter how extreme.

    Most of these children had just hit puberty and some were clearly still children: wide-eyed, nervous, with high-pitched voices.

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    Some of the girls were beginning their first forays into make-up. Several wore braces on their teeth. Everybody was smartly turned out in school uniform, and the most anti-authority statement in the room was a tie worn deliberately short. A One Direction pencil case lay on a desk. These were clearly good children, from good homes. So far, so very, very ordinary.

    But when Jonny pinned their lists on the board, it turned out that the children's extensive knowledge of porn terms was not only startling, it superseded that of every adult in the room - including the sex education consultant himself.
    Martin was shocked by what the teenagers said

    Martin was shocked by what the teenagers said

    'Nugget, what's that?' asked Jonny.

    'A nugget is a girl who has no arms or legs and has sex in a porno movie,' chortled one young, pimply boy, to an outburst of embarrassed laughter from some, and outright revulsion from others.

    The adults in attendance were incredulous at the thought that not only did this kind of porn exist, but that a 14-year-old boy may have actually watched it.

    But the more mundane answers were just as shocking. For example, the first word every single boy and girl in the group put on their list was 'anal'.

    When questioned, they had all - every child in a class of 20 - seen sodomy acted out in porn videos. I was stunned they even knew about it - I certainly hadn't heard of it at that age - let alone had watched it and as a result may even have wanted to try it.

    One 15-year-old girl said, 'Boys expect porn sex in real life'. And one boy - to choruses of approval - spoke of his revulsion for pubic hair, which he called a 'gorilla'.

    When Jonny pointed out that pubic hair was normal in real life, the boys scoffed, but some of the girls were angry that the boys' template of what to expect from real girls had clearly already been set by porn.

    By the end of the hour-long class - and three others that followed with other children - I was profoundly saddened by what I had witnessed. While teenage boys will always be fascinated by, and curious about, sex, what's now considered 'normal' by under-18s is an entirely distorted view of intercourse and the way relationships should be conducted.

    It seemed as if the children's entire expectation of sex had been defined by what they see in online porn. The conversation was horrifying enough, yet there was worse to come.

    In the playground, I interviewed a brave group of seven bright boys and girls aged 14-15 to ascertain in more detail what online porn they had witnessed.
    'Nugget, what's that?' asked Jonny. 'A nugget is a girl who has no arms or legs and has sex in a porno movie,' chortled one young, pimply boy

    One boy calmly recalled watching a scene too graphic to describe in a family newspaper, but which had involved an animal.

    'You're watching bestiality?' I asked. 'That's illegal. Where are you getting this stuff from?'

    'Facebook,' the boy said. 'It just pops up whether you want it or not, sometimes via advertisements. You don't have any control over it.'

    A girl added, 'On Facebook, you just scroll down and it's there. If any of your friends like it, it comes up on your home page.'

    These kids were balanced, smart and savvy. They were the most academically gifted and sporting in the school. They came from ordinary, hard-working households. This was not 'Broken Britain'.

    Some were clearly shocked by what they had seen on the internet.

    'I find it dirty and disturbing,' said one 15-year-old boy. 'I try not to look at it, but people just keep sending it to each other. They email disgusting links to each other's mobile phones to shock.'
    One girl put her head in her hands and said, 'It's just gross'.

    It's horrifying enough for parents to know that children can get porn via the internet. But to think they get it from Facebook - the social media currency that has become a universal must-have for teenagers globally - will strike terror into their hearts.

    Documentary investigates what effect online porn has on teens
    After leaving Loaded MartinI agonised that they may have switched a generation onto explicit porn

    After leaving Loaded MartinI agonised that they may have switched a generation onto explicit porn

    I asked the teenagers: 'On a scale of one to ten, how likely would you say it is that boys and girls your age are watching porn online?'

    The reply was a chorus of tens, nines and one eight.

    When I asked the children if there were parental controls on the internet at home, they all said no, their parents trusted them. They all admitted their parents had no idea what they were watching, and would be shocked if they did know.

    What I saw at the school was awful, but sadly not unusual.

    The findings were backed up in a survey of 80 boys and girls aged 12-16, commissioned for the TV show.

    It proves the vast majority of UK teens have seen sexual imagery online, or pornographic films.

    According to the survey, the boys appear largely happy about watching porn - and were twice as likely as girls to do so - but the girls are significantly more confused, angry and frightened by online sexual imagery. The more they see, the stronger they feel.

    But what impact is this steady diet of online depravity having on the attitudes of boys and girls towards real life relationships, and on their self-esteem?

    Could it even have a wider impact on their lives, blighting their ability to function in the world, get good qualifications and jobs?

    What I discovered left me truly shocked and saddened.
    He wanted to know how to protect his son

    He wanted to know how to protect his son

    You might be surprised. After all, from 2003-2010 I edited lad's magazine Loaded.

    With its frequent nudity and lewd photo spreads, I'd long been accused of being a soft pornographer, and after leaving Loaded I agonised that my magazine may have switched a generation onto more explicit online porn.

    In the documentary I set out on a journey to answer the question: is porn harmless, or is it damaging lives?

    My interest was deeply personal, too, as my own beautiful little boy, Sonny, is now four. Even though he has only just started primary school, the Children's Commissioner estimates boys as young as ten are now being exposed to online porn.

    I wanted to know what I could do to protect my own son from a seemingly inevitable exposure to hardcore material in just a few years' time.

    I used to be sceptical that porn was as damaging a force as the headlines and David Cameron - who recently said it was 'corroding childhood' - suggest. In the past I'd even defended pornography in university debates, on TV and on radio. I claimed it was our freedom of choice to watch it and said it could actually help add to adult relationships.

    But what I saw during the making of the film changed my opinion of pornography forever.

    The true stories of boys I met whose lives had been totally taken over by porn not only moved me to tears but also made me incredibly angry that this is happening to our children.

    And the looks of revulsion on those poor girl's faces in the playground enraged me.

    I feel as if an entire generation's sexuality has been hijacked by grotesque online porn.

    To find out what porn is doing to young men, and the girls they have relationships with, we spoke to them via online forums and discovered that there were many young lives seriously blighted by an excessive, unhealthy relationship with pornography that can begin when they are as young as 12.

    We learned that some had lost their jobs, others had broken relationships, failed exams, or got into serious debt through using porn.
    'When you interview young women about their experiences of sex, you see an increased level of violence: rough, violent sex. That is directly because of porn, as young boys are getting their sexual cues from men in porn who are acting as if they're sexual psychopaths'

    Take the 19-year-old man I got to know. He was handsome, articulate and in full-time employment as an apprentice electrician. But his life was dominated by his porn habit.

    'Every bit of spare time I have is spent watching porn,' he says. 'It is extreme. I can't hold down a relationship for longer than three weeks. I want porn sex with real girls, but sex with them just isn't as good as the porn.'

    Having established, like the recent Children's Commissioner report, that 'basically, porn is everywhere', we set out to discover what all this porn was doing to their brains.

    Was it having any effect at all? Could it be addictive?

    We found Dr Valerie Voon, a neuroscientist at Cambridge University and a global authority on addiction.

    Then, in the first study of its kind, we recruited 19 heavy porn users who felt their habit was out of control and had Dr Voon examine their brain activity as they watched, among other things, hardcore porn.

    She showed them a variety of images, both stills and videos.

    These ranged from images known to excite all men, such as bundles of £50 notes and extreme sports in action, to mundane landscapes and wallpapers - all inter-spliced with hardcore porn videos, plus pictures of both clothed and naked women.

    The ways in which their brains responded to this diverse imagery were compared with the responses of a group of healthy volunteers.

    She was interested in a particular brain region called the ventral striatum - the 'reward centre' - where our sense of pleasure is produced. This is one of the areas where an addict will show a heightened response to visual representations of their addiction - whether it's a syringe or a bottle of vodka.
    'Letting our children consume it freely via the internet is like leaving heroin lying around the house'

    'Letting our children consume it freely via the internet is like leaving heroin lying around the house'

    What we discovered was a revelation. When shown porn, the reward centre of normal volunteers barely reacted, but that of the compulsive porn users lit up like a Christmas tree.

    The compulsive porn users' brains showed clear parallels with those with substance addictions.
    Everybody on the project was astounded, even Dr Voon, who admitted she had been 'sceptical and ambivalent' about the study at the outset.

    If porn does have the insidious power to be addictive, then letting our children consume it freely via the internet is like leaving heroin lying around the house, or handing out vodka at the school gates.
    And this toxic effect is filtering down directly into young girls' lives.

    The most shocking testament came from Professor Gail Dines. Regarded as the world's leading anti-pornography campaigner, she has interviewed thousands of men and women about sex and pornography.

    'When you interview young women about their experiences of sex, you see an increased level of violence: rough, violent sex,' she says.

    'That is directly because of porn, as young boys are getting their sexual cues from men in porn who are acting as if they're sexual psychopaths.

    'Pornography is sexually traumatising an entire generation of boys.'

    By talking with sexual addiction experts such as Professor John E Grant of the University of Chicago, Dr Paula Hall, the UK's top sex addiction therapist, and Professor Matt Field from the University of Liverpool, we learned that the teenage brain is especially vulnerable to addiction.

    The brain's reward centre is fully developed by the time we're teenagers, but the part of the brain that regulates our urges - the pre-frontal cortex - isn't fully developed until our mid-20s. The brains of teenagers are not wired to say 'stop', they are wired to want more. The implications of this study are profoundly troubling.

    So who is going to take on the responsibility for protecting our children until they are old enough to do it for themselves?

    Can we rely on schools? It strikes me that the current sex education system in the UK - where schools are obliged only to teach the basics of reproduction and the perils of sex, which they can opt out of anyway - is hopelessly outdated.

    In the internet age, our children are turning to online porn for an alternative sex education - the worst place they can go.

    The Mail claimed a victory in July when David Cameron announced that by the end of 2014 all 19 million UK homes currently connected to the internet will be contacted by service providers and told they must say whether family friendly filters that block all porn sites should be switched on or off.

    But our TV show proved that determined children will always find a way around online blocks.

    Ultimately, the responsibility lies with us, the parents. The age of innocence is over.

    Like many parents, I fear that my boy's childhood could be taken away by pornography. So we have to fight back.

    We need to get tech-savvy, and as toe-curling as it seems, we are the first generation that will have to talk to our children about porn.

    We have to tell our kids that pornographic sex is fake and real sex is about love, not lust.

    By talking to them, they stand a chance. If we stick our head in the sand, we are fooling only ourselves.

    Porn On The Brain airs on Monday, 30 September at 10pm on Channel 4 as part of Channel 4's Campaign for Real Sex
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    Rape is about power, not sex

    Horrific rapes in Bolivia and India remind us that sexual assault can happen anywhere women's bodies and voices are degraded

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    Jill Filipovic
    theguardian.com, Thursday 29 August 2013 14.30 BST
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    India rape laws
    Women attend a prayer ceremony in Delhi the day after the funeral of a 23-year-old woman who was gang-raped on a bus. Photograph: Adnan Abidi / Reuters/REUTERS

    Traditional gender roles, a self-policing community, hierarchies where certain people are considered untouchable: that's a perfect recipe for rampant sexual abuse and inadequate prosecution. We've seen it in the Catholic church, in Hasidic Jewish communities, among Mennonites in Bolivia. So why don't we learn from these patterns? Why are religious authorities, mainstream politicians and even institutions of higher learning promoting the same mechanisms that keep sexual assault both pervasive and under-reported?

    In an astounding piece of reporting for Vice, journalist Jean Friedman-Rudovsky revisits the Manitoba Colony in Bolivia, where in 2011 she covered the rape trials of members of the insular Mennonite community. At least 130 Mennonite women and girls were raped in the colony over several years, by at least nine men. Assailants would drug their victims before assaulting them; the victims would awaken with little memory of the attack. For years, complaints were ignored or brushed off as crazy female delusions or cover-ups for affairs. There were no prosecutions for rapes of men and boys, but community residents told Friedman-Rudovsky that women weren't the only victims. The oldest victim was 65. The youngest was three.

    It's rumored that despite the prosecutions, the rapes continue, and incest appears to be rampant. There has been little public discussion of the assaults, and the victims have received no mental health counseling. Many of the girls who were raped have never been told what happened to them. The colony – or at least the men who run it – seems to have a collective decision to pretend the assaults never happened.

    The residents of Manitoba Colony essentially police themselves, and men occupy all positions of authority. Women can't legally represent themselves, so the plaintiffs in the rape trials were five men – husbands and fathers of the actual victims. Boys stay in school a year longer than girls in order to learn math and bookkeeping, skills women are presumed not to need. A woman's duty is to submit to male authority. And forgiveness is centered in religious beliefs, to the point where a failure to forgive those who have wronged you means you won't go to heaven. The women and girls of Manitoba were simply told that if they didn't forgive their rapists, God would not forgive them.

    Earlier this year in New York City, a man who accused a powerful member of the Hasidic Jewish community of molestation was first shunned, then indicted on criminal charges. This week, the US military began hearings on rape charges brought against three US Naval Academy football players.

    In Mumbai, India, five men have been arrested for yet another internationally-publicized gang rape, and the highest court is sounding the alarm over the fact that more than three-quarters of rape cases end in acquittal. Two years after a complaint sparked a federal investigation, Yale says it will finally clarify its position on "nonconsensual sex" – or "rape" as it's better known – to clarify that it does punish offenders and doesn't let them off with written reprimands, as an earlier report suggested. In Egypt, thousands of women have been sexually assaulted and gang raped in Tahrir Square over the past two and a half years, with no assailants prosecuted. In the US, a former high school teacher will spend just 30 days in jail for raping a 14-year-old student who later committed suicide, because the girl was "as much in control of the situation" as her 49-year-old teacher and was "older than her chronological age".

    Rape isn't perpetrated only by members of one religion, race, nation or belief system. But rapists are particularly abetted by cultures in which women are second-class citizens, where women's bodies are intensely politicized, where social hierarchies outlandishly privilege certain members and where there's a presumption of male authority and righteousness.

    Rape is a particularly difficult crime because it's about both power and violence. Rapists use sex organs as the locus of their violence, but rape isn't about sex, at least not in the sense of being motivated by sexual attraction or an uncontrollable sexual urge. Rape is about sex in the sense that rapists not only commit acts of sexual violence, but that the pervasive threat of sexual assault is used to limit women's sovereignty and justify sexual assault itself. The reality is that men are much more likely than women to be victims of violence outside of their own homes, yet I know far more women than men who internalize certain supposed violence-avoidance methods: walk with your keys in your hand, take cabs at night, don't accept drinks from strangers, be careful what you wear, don't walk alone after dark. When women are the victims of rape, there's an immediate assessment of what she did wrong and which of her perceived mistakes made her vulnerable to an assailant. An eleven-year-old girl is gang-raped in Texas by a group of grown men and the problem was that she wore make-up and "provocative" clothing. Women in Egypt are stripped and assaulted and their brightly-colored underwear is evidence of immodesty.

    Rapists don't rape because they can't "get" sex elsewhere. Rapists don't rape because they're uncontrollably turned on by the sight of some cleavage, or a midriff, or red lipstick, or an ankle. They rape because they're misogynist sadists, and they flourish in places where misogyny is justified as tradition and maleness comes with a presumption of violence.

    Combating rape and sexual assault goes beyond just criminalizing and prosecuting it. It requires an understanding of how many misogynist puzzle pieces fit together – that a cultural belief that the female body is inherently tempting and dirty cannot be separated from actions that do violence to female bodies; that a conceit of eliteness or purity means perpetrators within special elite or pure groups will get away with committing crimes; that community policing is useless for enforcing gendered crimes when community norms privilege men; that the politicization of female sexuality sends a message that the female body is public property and that women are less deserving of basic rights than men.

    Rape happens in every society, and nowhere in the world has perfect gender equality been achieved. But rapes are more likely to be reported in places where men and women are more equal. And rapists are enabled by misogyny, whether it comes in the form of politicians and religious leaders deciding it's the right of the state to regulate reproduction or modesty warriors declaring the female body itself inappropriate. Political violations of the female body abet physical ones; cultural narratives that women tempt men into bad behavior abet legal ones.

    Abortion restrictions and other political regulations of female sexuality? Part of a culture that tacitly condones rape. Laws on what women can or cannot wear? Part of a culture that tacitly condones rape. Sexualization of young girls in order to sell products? Part of a culture that tacitly condones rape. Reacting to corporate sexualization by telling girls they won't be respected if they're sexy and insisting that female modesty is the answer? Part of a culture that tacitly condones rape.

    It's easy to look at insular, intensely patriarchal far-flung communities like the Mennonites in Bolivia and conclude that of course their old-timey ways and widespread sense of sexual shame allowed for serial rapists to commit more than 100 assaults over several years. It's easy to be appalled at grown men spitting on schoolgirls and calling them sluts because they wore t-shirts. But we should be equally outraged by the less extreme acts of hatred toward women that are no less effective in giving rapists license to operate and keeping victims silent, ashamed and without justice.
  • সে | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১৭:৪৫580205
  • তো ঘুরেফিরে সেই পাওয়ারের গপ্পো। সম্মান না করবার গপ্পো। ব্যাক টু দ্য স্কোয়ার ওয়ান। এবার কালী কোথায় যাবো।
  • :-) | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১৮:২৮580206
  • একদম, পুরোটাই মিসোজিনি।
  • cm | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১৮:৩৩580207
  • ধর্ষকের হয়ে যারা ঘুষ দেবে তাদের জন্য কি শাস্তির বিধান হল?
  • :-) | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১৮:৩৬580208
  • গদি ও ভোটের টিকিট।
  • :-) | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১৯:২৭580209
  • মাধুকরী তে বুদ্ধদেব গুহ -
    "একজন আধুনিক মানুষের বুকে নিজের প্রতি যতখানি মমত্ব এবং
    গর্ব থাকে, ঠিক ততখানি ই বোধহয় থাকে ঘৃনা ও। নিজেকে সে
    মানুষ যতখানি ঘৃনা করে ততখানি বোধহয় আর কাউকেই করে
    না।"
  • π | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১৯:৩৫580210
  • 'Rapists don't rape because they're uncontrollably turned on by the sight of some cleavage, or a midriff, or red lipstick, or an ankle. '
  • :-) | ০১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ২০:০৮580211
  • Name: maximin Date:31 Aug 2013 -- 10:50 PM

    Oh but they also rape because they're uncontrollably turned on. What had turned them on is another matter. Misogyny -- hatred or dislike of women -- is not the only reason.

    Name: maximin Date:31 Aug 2013 -- 11:35 PM

    মূল বক্তব্য ঠিকই আছে। কিন্তু লেখিকা Jill Filipovic একটা কথা বলতে গিয়ে হাজারটা কথা বলেছেন।

    হানি সিং টই
  • π | ০৯ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ০৬:৪৭580212
  • http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2013/10/08/230428115/many-teens-admit-to-coercing-others-into-sex?sc=17&f=1001

    ইন্টারেস্টিং সার্ভে।

    The results come from a multiyear study funded by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that was designed to look for the roots of adult sexual violence. Most adult perpetrators say they first preyed on another while still in their teens......Three percent got someone to give in to unwilling sex. Three percent attempted to rape the person, and 2 percent completed a rape.....

    Three-quarters of the victims were in a romantic relationship with the perpetrator.

    অবশ্য রেপ এর সংজ্ঞা এখানে একটু অন্য।
    he coercion used was almost always psychological, not physical. The most common tactics for forcing or trying to force sex were guilt, deliberately getting the victim drunk or arguing with or pressuring the victim. Five percent threatened to use physical force, and 8 percent did. The survey used the federal Bureau of Justice definition of rape, which includes psychological coercion as well as physical force.

    এই সংজ্ঞার জন্যেই সংখ্যাটা এত বেশি। In adulthood, more than 1 million people are the victims of rape or sexual assault each year, according to the National Institutes of Justice. Domestic violence affects more than 2 million adults a year.নানা দেশের ধর্ষণ ও গৃহহিংসার কেসের সংখ্যা তুলনার সময় আণ্ডাররিপোর্টিং এর সমস্যার সাথে সাথে এই পরিবর্তিত সংজ্ঞাও মাথায় রাখা উচিত। এই তুলনাগুলোর তাই সেরকম কোন মানেই হয় না।

    যাই হোক, ভিক্টিমের 'দোষ' প্রসংগে সার্ভেটি যা পেয়েছেঃ
    When asked who was to blame, half of the perpetrators said the victim was completely responsible; one-third said it was their own fault. "If half of the perpetrators felt the victim was responsible for this, we need to do something," Ybarra, who is president and research director of the Center for Innovative Public Health in San Clemente, Calif.

    আর, লখ্যণীয় হল, মেয়েরাও 'জোর' করছে ঃ
    Almost half of the study participants said they first forced someone to have sexual activity when they were 16. But by age 18, girls had become much more involved in preying on others, to the point where they were almost as likely to be perpetrators as were boys.

    এবং, এবং ....
    The survey also looked at media use and found that perpetrators of sexual violence were more likely to watch violent X-rated materials than were the others.
  • π | ০৯ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ০৬:৪৮580214
  • *লক্ষ্যণীয়
  • π | ২১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ০৯:৩৮580215
  • এই নিয়ে অনেক তর্ক আগে হয়ে গেছে। ইন্ডিভিজ্যুয়াল চয়েজ বনাম সানি, 'patriarchal bargain ঃ

    '... On the one hand, women are making individual choices. They are not complete dupes of the system. They are architects of their own lives. On the other hand, those individual choices are being made within a system. The system sets up the pros and cons, the rewards and punishments, the paths to success and the pitfalls that lead to failure. No amount of wishing it were different will make it so. No individual choices change that reality.

    So, Cyrus may indeed be “in charge of her own show,” as Palmer puts it. She may have chosen to be a “raging, naked, twerking sexpot” all of her own volition. But why? Because that’s what the system rewards. That’s not freedom, that’s a strategy.

    In sociological terms, we call this a patriarchal bargain. Both men and women make them and they come in many different forms. Generally, however, they involve a choice to manipulate the system to one’s best advantage without challenging the system itself. This may maximize the benefits that accrue to any individual woman, but it harms women as a whole. Cyrus’ particular bargain – accepting the sexual objectification of women in exchange for money, fame, and power

    http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2013/10/14/my-two-cents-on-feminism-and-miley-cyrus/

    তবে অব্জেক্টিফিফিকেশনের 'harmful' এফেক্ট নিয়ে পুরো একমত হতে পারলাম না। সে নিয়েও আগে কথা হয়ে গেছে অবশ্য।
  • PM | ২১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১২:৪৭580218
  • পাকিস্তানে আইন পাশ হলো মৃত্যুদন্ড বন্ধ করে। পাকিস্তানে ৮০০০ মৃত্যুদন্ড প্রাপ্ত আসামী আছে।

    বলা হচ্ছে এই আইন না পাশ করালে EU কিছু ট্রেড ব্যারিয়ার আনার কথা বলছিলো।
  • PM | ২১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১২:৪৭580217
  • পাকিস্তানে আইন পাশ হলো মৃত্যুদন্ড বন্ধ করে। পাকিস্তানে ৮০০০ মৃত্যুদন্ড প্রাপ্ত আসামী আছে।

    বলা হচ্ছে এই আইন না পাশ করালে EU কিছু ট্রেড ব্যারিয়ার আনার কথা বলছিলো।
  • PM | ২১ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ১২:৪৭580216
  • পাকিস্তানে আইন পাশ হলো মৃত্যুদন্ড বন্ধ করে। পাকিস্তানে ৮০০০ মৃত্যুদন্ড প্রাপ্ত আসামী আছে।

    বলা হচ্ছে এই আইন না পাশ করালে EU কিছু ট্রেড ব্যারিয়ার আনার কথা বলছিলো।
  • π | ২৯ অক্টোবর ২০১৩ ০০:০২580219
  • '..One problem is that perpetrators may not view their actions as a grave crime, but something closer to mischief. A survey of more than 10,000 men carried out in six Asian countries — India not among them — and published in The Lancet Global Health journal in September came up with startling data. It found that, when the word “rape” was not used as part of a questionnaire, more than one in 10 men in the region admitted to forcing sex on a woman who was not their partner.

    Asked why, 73 percent said the reason was “entitlement.” Fifty-nine percent said their motivation was “entertainment seeking,” agreeing with the statements “I wanted to have fun” or “I was bored.” Flavia Agnes, a Mumbai women’s rights lawyer who has been working on rape cases since the 1970s, said the findings rang true to her experience.

    “It’s just frivolous; they just do it casually,” she said. “There is so much abject poverty. They just want to have a little fun on the side. That’s it. See, they have nothing to lose.”।।'
  • PT | ০১ নভেম্বর ২০১৩ ১৮:০৯580221
  • যাবজ্জীবন কারাদণ্ড দিলেও কি এইসব কেস কমে যেত?
  • কল্লোল | ০১ নভেম্বর ২০১৩ ২১:১৩580222
  • সেটা কে বললো? দুটো আলাদা বিষয়। শাস্তি হিসাবে মৃত্যুদন্ড আসলে একধরনের প্রতিশোধ স্পৃহার নামান্তর মাত্র।
    ধর্ষণের সমাধান শাস্তি নয়, পুরুষতন্ত্রের বিরুদ্ধে লাগাতার লড়াই, ও তার মধ্যে দিয়ে নারী সম্পর্কিত চিন্তা ভাবনায় বদল আনা।
    তা বলে যে ধর্ষণ করছে তাকে বিনা শাস্তিতে ছেড়ে দিতে বলছি না। শাস্তি কি হবে তাই নিয়ে তর্কের একটা অংশ মৃত্যুদন্ড কিংবা অন্য কিছু।
    ধর্ষণ কমে বা বন্ধ হয়ে যাওয়া আর, সাথে শাস্তি ব্যাবস্থা নিয়ে তর্ক দুটো আলাদা বিষয়। একটায় গোটা সমাজের চিন্তা ভাবনা যুক্ত। অন্যটায় ব্যক্তি মানুষ।
  • PT | ০২ নভেম্বর ২০১৩ ০৮:০৪580223
  • আমার লেখাটা পাইএর প্রশ্ন প্রসঙ্গে আর তুমি যেটা লিখলে সেটা ভিন্ন প্রসঙ্গ।

    তবে আমার বিশ্বাস "পুরুষতন্ত্রের বিরুদ্ধে লাগাতার লড়াই" দিয়ে ধর্ষণ ব্ন্ধ করা যাবে এটা এক ধরনের রূপকথার গল্প। কেননা কোটি কোটি মানুষের মধ্যে হাজার কয়েক বা তারও বেশী অসুস্থ মানুষ সব সময়েই রয়ে যাবে। তাদের কাছে এই জোর খাটানোটা “...just frivolous; they just do it casually!”
  • π | ০২ নভেম্বর ২০১৩ ০৮:১০580225
  • নিউ ইয়র্ক টাইমসের ঐ লেখাটা থেকে আরো কিছু অংশ তুলব ভেবে আর হয়ে ওঠেনি।

    আজ রইলো। মুম্বই কাণ্ডে মূল ধর্ষকের মায়ের বক্তব্য। এঁকেও কি ফাঁসি দেওয়া উচিত ?
    নাকি ঐ মানসিকতার পরিবর্তনের গোড়ার কথাতেই আমাদের ফিরে যেতে হবে ?

    '...“I asked Kasim, ‘Son, why did you do this to her? If it happened to your sister, would you come here and tell me or would you beat him?’ ” said his mother, Chandbibi Sheikh. He told her that his friends had come upon the couple embracing in the mill, and “they thought: ‘What is she doing with this boy here? She must be loose.’ ”

    She related this exchange from the family’s home, a sort of shelf wedged between a gas station and a garbage dump; as she spoke, a rat the size of a kitten clambered over containers stacked in a corner. She said far too much onus was being put on the men.

    “Obviously, the fault is the girl’s,” she said. “Why did she have to go to that jungle? It’s her fault, too. Also, she was wearing skimpy clothes.”

    She did not deny that he had done it. “He must have,” she said. “He told me that they tied up the boy who was doing bad things to her and said, ‘Madam, let us also do it.’ The madam said, ‘Don’t do it to me, take my mobile, take my camera, but don’t do it to me.’ Her body was uncovered. How could he control himself? And so it happened.”...
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